Monday, 16 April 2012

Something In The Water

What the heck is going on in the blogging world in the last week?
With shock and dismay I witnessed via my facebook feed a blogger have a very public feud with a another blogger, well it was one sided as one blogger didn't come to the party but as it was playing out and the trolls and lurkers came to add fuel to the fire, as quick as the status's were going up they were being deleted. So there was confusion as to what the heck was going on. What did I do? block and delete. I watch Revenge for my drama fix thanks very much.
Then I read an article that upset four of my favorite bloggers. Members of our blogging COMMUNITY. Some were quoted out of context, others well they were just blatantly lied about. Lies that have bigger ramifications than oops. Eden HAS not fallen off the recovery wagon for 7 months, it was one weekend in February. The inference that she is a NOW a loving mother is beyond insulting. She's always been a loving mother. Naomi's father is alive and has not passed as reported. The dismay family members must have felt reading that is immeasurable. It breaks my heart these beautiful souls are hurting. Unnecessarily. They own their words, they share what they want and keep private what they want, we love them warts and all. They deserved better.
It gives me a heavy heart that this may change how they blog and express their voice.
Eden I was most concerned about, her inner demons that will feed off this. I stand in front you demons and say "Get Fucked" leave our girl alone.
I went about my day trying to get the article out of my head, but alas it was not to be.
Shelley from My Shoe Box Life has decided to step away from blogging because she no longer feels she can have a voice with IRL influences."I’ve spent so long trying  to find my voice, and when you have a blog and you still can’t speak, sometimes it just makes things a whole lot harder." 
This broke me literally, I cried very salty tears. Shelley was one of the first to ever comment on my blog and show her support. Since then she has become someone I hold very dear. A friendship that will continue away from blogging. But it sucks big blue ones that my dear friend can no longer use her voice, her words, her outlet.
Bloggers are a community, the whole reason I started blogging. Something was lacking and having the ability to put words out there, whether anyone reads them or not, was exactly what I needed.
I feel like some nasty gang has entered our community and is picking us off one by one. I won't let you gang, your not welcome here, let this community have their voices.
They change lives YO

For My Friend


  1. Certainly been an eventful few weeks in our community indeed Beth.
    I was always taught if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all AND let he without sin be the first to cast stone...not so in blogland apparently. 

    I'm with you hun!


  2. Cherie @ a baby called Max16 April 2012 at 22:52

    This makes me really sad.

    Literally, all of it :(

    Especially Shelley.  Such a beautiful soul.

    I can relate to blogging being my voice, absolutely.  I am just sorry that she feels she has lost it :(

    Cherie xx

  3. I love you. We so need to have a bevvy one day. I just read Shelley's post and I am not sure I get all of it, but I get that she feels silenced by people who don't get her, who I am gathering are her IRL peeps. Are these people friends or not??
    As for Eden and the others, I am sure that its mainstream media trying to put us low life bloggers down where they believe we belong. They are so wrong. Worried about Eden now though. 

  4. I am clueless about the feud, but have to agree, there is something in the water that makes me very uncomfortable as well, and I can't quite put my finger on it. I understand a blogger's need to step away from their blog, for whatever reason. Absolutely I do. It can be upsetting, but sometimes it just has to be done. 

  5. I am new to the blogging world, I started my blog, like most, when my daughter was born. I was just writing and publishing as a place to keep it all safe to be able to show Evelyn one day in the future. But then I came across all these wonderful people. All these fellow bloggers, a lot who are doing the same. I think I came into the blogging world at the wrong time. Three weeks ago I was so excited about all these other blogs I have found, all these friends I have found. Then this article was released, and the mood is sombre. I just hope that those who were insulted and offended in the writing of said article can heal and continue doing what inspired me to have the courage to join. 

    What a sad few weeks it has been


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